Parenting Tips: Are you facing parenting problems because of your mother-in-law? Follow these 5 tricks quietly..

Mother-In-Law Interfering In Parenting: When several generations live together in a house, there are often differences of opinion about parenting, i.e., raising children. Especially new mothers find it difficult to balance between their mother-in-law's old ways and their new thinking. Many times, the mother-in-law's words feel like interference, or it seems that she is interfering in everything, but saying something directly also does not seem right. In such a situation, the mother often feels angry or frustrated, which can affect the relationship. But the truth is that even without fights and arguments, you can make your parenting style effective; all you need is a little understanding and some tricks.

Listen, but do what seems right.

Suppose your mother-in-law says, "The child is crying, give him milk quickly, he will fall ill if he keeps crying like this." Now you know that you have just fed the child, and he is just asking for a lap. In such a situation, saying directly, “No, mother, you should not do this,” can lead to an argument. Instead, you can smile and say, “Yes, mother, I see, maybe he is a little upset.” And then handle the child in your way. This will neither make him feel bad nor will it affect your parenting.

Make him feel a sense of partnership; do not push him away.
If you avoid him in everything, like, “Mother, let it be, I will do it myself,” then he will feel that he is no longer needed. Instead, sometimes say, “Mother, please tell him a story today, he likes you a lot.” This will make him feel that he is important, and you will also get some relief. The point is to support small tasks, not to distance yourself from everything.

Do not fight in front of the child.
Suppose the child is watching TV, and your mother-in-law says, “Hey, let him watch TV, it is a little fun.” Whereas you have decided that the screen time will be limited. Now, in such a situation, if you say angrily in front of the child, “You interrupt in everything!” then the damage will be double, to the relationship as well as to the child's thinking. It is better that, after some time, you go to a separate room and say, “Maaji, the doctor has said that it will be better if you keep him away from the screen for a while.”

Tell new things, but do not impose.
If you know something new, like a positive reward system, in which instead of scolding the child, he gets praise for good behavior, then the way of telling it should be such that the other person feels that you are helping them. Like say, “Maaji, these days I read a method in which the child is motivated by praise, I thought I'd let me try it.” This will make the mother-in-law feel that you are including her, and not proving her methods wrong.

Make the mother-in-law also a part of the team -
If you give your mother-in-law an important role in taking care of the child, then she will also consider herself important, and there will be less conflict. For example, one day you may say, "Maa ji, the way you entertained him today was amazing! I just kept looking at it." This one line will make them happy and will also make them stand with you.

It is common for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have differences in their thinking, but when it comes to raising a child, it is better to act wisely instead of fighting. A little smartness and a lot of love not only save the relationship but also give a better environment to the child. Because the roots of a strong relationship are hidden in the love and harmony of the home.

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